How to protect your child from your love?
Being a parent is one of the most important life roles.
Give birth to a new being, create a new life, watch it grow, to prepare them for independent living is neither simple nor easy.
Although parental love is in most cases an endless and although a huge number of parents want their children the best, the practice shows that a very small percentage of them succeed in that mission.
Successful parents are those who manage to equip their children to live independently.
To bring them to that to be mature and responsible person, to know who they are, how to live a life in accordance with his being, and how to realize their potential.
Almost all parents want, but very few of them and succeed in doing so. Why is this so? There are many reasons and causes, but they can all be reduced to the fact that most parents are simply not taught how to accomplish that.
Endless love for their children and wish them all the best in life is simply not enough.
One common parental misconception is the belief that the amount of worry that they feel the same amount of love.
The more a parent worries about their child the child is more protected. The more fears over security of their offspring, the child is more protected.
Many parents believe deep down that if you do not fear for your child and if you (and the child) is not harassing cares and that means that they are not good parents.
Many have this magical belief that their concerns and fears protect their kids.
And the opposite is true - with fears and worries that go beyond reality, parents are actually harming their children!
Children feel the feelings of their parents, and when a parent is upset and scared to be transmitted to the child. Also, when parents worry and fear more than they in reality have a reason for it, their children send the following messages:
"The world is a dangerous place"
"You are not able to function independently."
And in this way lead the child to become scared and clingy. Thus hamper and hinder their children.
Ask any parent: "Do you want your child to be insecure in his self and afraid of life?" the answer would be, "Of course not want my child to live a beautiful and fulfilling life, to be happy, happy and free!"
If you then ask, "Do you know how you can achieve?" the vast majority will not know the answer.
How parents can prevent that despite the enormous love of your fears and concerns harm to their children and make them less capable of beautiful and fulfilling life?
Here are some guidelines:
Examine it, do you believe that parental love is the same as a concern?
In any situation when you feel fear or worry, ask yourself how realistic are these feelings? How likely is it that all these atrocities to happen to your child as soon as you leave / let alone.
Ask yourself, "Based on what I believe my child will cope in this situation?". If you have some reasons, if your child does not have any skills that they need, teach them. It will be more beneficial than you watch in horror.
When you feel fear or worries, ask yourself "What can I do in this situation to protect my child?". If there is something, do it. If not, driving yourself with worries and fears is unnecessary and, I repeat, harmful!
Remind yourself of all the qualities and abilities of your child, keep them in mind when you are in contact with him. Thus empower them, and showing that you trust them to teach them to have confidence in yourself.
Instead of imagining the worst possible scenario, imagine how your child is happy and content.
Do not let yourself get overwhelmed with fears and concerns! Your responsibility as a parent is to be calm and functional, the only way you can be of benefit to your children.
Keep confidence in your children, so they grow stronger, and thus more protected.
Be a good example for your child if you know how to take care of yourself your child will learn that simply by watching you!
source- http://www.beingemotionalyintelligent.blogspot.com/
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