среда, 22. јануар 2014.
уторак, 21. јануар 2014.
9 Truths You Should Know by Now
9 Truths You Should Know by Now
“In school, you’re taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you’re given a test that teaches you a lesson.” ~ Tom BodettWhat I will share with you today are 9 simple yet powerful truths we learn as we go through this beautiful journey called life.
1. Life is a process of becoming.
We go through life to find ourselves, to become ourselves.Don’t be afraid to make “mistakes”. Don’t be afraid to “fail”. Have fun in all that you do. The more things you do in life, the more things you’ll learn from life. Enjoy the journey because that’s what life is all about. It’s not about rushing towards a final destination, its about enjoying the journey…
“When you meet anyone, remember it is a holy encounter. As you see him you will see yourself. As you treat him you will treat yourself. As you think of him you will think of yourself. Never forget this, for in him you will find yourself or lose yourself. ” ~ Helen Shucman
2. You are exactly where you need to be.
If you’re in a really dark place right now, chances are that you’ll not be too pleased to know this, but the truth of the matter is that “Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment.” ― Eckhart TolleYou can either choose to accept or resist what is, and based on your choice you will find the clarity and the strength to move forward in life, or stay stuck. It’s all up to you. The power is in your hands.
3. Let Go of Fear. Love is all you need.
May sound like a cliche, but the truth of the matter is that LOVE is all you need. Love is the only thing that’s real, the only thing that matters. By closing the door to your heart and by building walls between you and the whole world, you won’t keep suffering away from your life, you will keep it in your life!Can’t you see?
It’s that closed door and those fearful walls that are causing you to experience all that pain. Open the door to your heart. Let go of fear. Tear down the walls you have built and allow trust, light and love to govern your heart.
“Fear condemns and love forgives. Forgiveness thus undoes what fear has produced.” ~ A Course in Miracles
4. Forget about your age.
Who cares how young or old you are? It’s not your age that’s standing between you and all the wonderful thing you long for, it’s you! Your thoughts, your beliefs, your excuses and your self imposed limitations are the ones that keep you from acting on your heart’s desire. Age has nothing to do with it. If you inner fire is still burning and if you’re really passionate about crafting the life of your dreams, worrying about your age will be the last thing on your mind.“Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don’t mind, it doesn’t matter.” ~ Mark Twain
5. Life will give you whatever you ask for.
Life is good with those who think they deserve to receive good things, and “bad” with those who think they deserve to receive “bad things. Life gives you whatever you ask of it. It doesn’t discriminate.If you want to receive great things from life, you have to ask for them, but not only that. You also have to feel worthy of receiving them, and you have to be willing to take the necessary steps that will help you achieve the things you want to achieve. None of the things you want will just fall into your lap – you’ve got to go out and work for them.
“I bargained with Life for a penny, and Life would pay no more, however I begged at evening when I counted my scanty store. . ‘For Life is a just employer, he gives you what you ask, but once you have set the wages, why, you must bear the task. ‘I worked for a menial’s hire, only to learn dismayed, that any wage I had asked of Life, Life would have willingly paid.” ~ My Wage by Jessie B. Rittenhouse ‘
6. Life isn’t as bad as you THINK it is.
We all have crazy thoughts running through our heads but that doesn’t mean we have to believe everything we think. Whenever a negative and toxic thought runs through your mind, replace it with a positive one. That’s how it’s done. That’s how you go from negative to positive thinking. One step at a time, one thought at a time.“Thoughts are like an open ocean, they can either move you forward within its waves, or sink you under deep into its abyss.” ~ Anthony Liccione
7. It’s not them, it’s You.
The world is not against you, it really isn’t. It’s not the world that’s against you, it’s you that’s against the world and by rebelling against the world you are in fact rebelling against yourself. Make peace with yourself and the whole world will make peace with you.“Nothing external to you has any power over you.” ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
8. Your future will be exactly like the way you feel today.
What does this mean? it means that if you are constantly criticizing and complaining about everything and everyone, pointing fingers and expecting the whole world to change just so you can finally be happy, your future will be an identical copy of your present reality. It’s not the world that needs to change so that you can finally be happy, it is you. Nothing changes until you do…“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.” ~ Leo Tolstoy
9. None of this will matter in the end
Do you really think that the things you are now stressing and worrying about will even matter one year from now? I doubt that. Let go of stress. Laugh in the face of chaos. None of it will matter in the end.Your life has an expiration date and so does mine. None of us is going to live forever. Stress less, live more. Detach from all the drama that your mind is constantly trying to create. Focus on the things that truly matter and start laying the foundation to the wonderful life you say you want to live. You’re not going to live forever. If you don’t start living your life fully now, chances are that you never will…
“People wait all week for Friday, all year for Summer, and all life for Happiness…” ~ Ritu Ghatourey.
Get unstuck and get going. I will be cheering for you all the way
With all my love,
понедељак, 20. јануар 2014.
10 Negative Things You Should Stop Telling Yourself Today
10 Negative Things You Should Stop Telling Yourself Today
If
you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes
speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your
friend?
Many of us understand the
effects of negative self-talk. At one time or another, we’ve told
ourselves that we’re not good looking enough. That we’re not intelligent
enough. That we’re not strong enough to achieve a certain goal. But all
this negative self-talk is hindering our self-esteem and
self-confidence. It’s also affecting our happiness. Here are 10 negative things you should really stop telling yourself today.
1. “My needs don’t matter.”As a mother of three young children, I know how wonderful it is to be ‘selfless’. I know how important it is to put someone else’s needs before my own. But I’ve also learned that neglecting your own needs, all the time, can be detrimental to your own emotional and physical health. Putting yourself first once in a while is about being less ‘selfless’ – it does not make you ‘selfish’ at all. This is your life as well – you deserve to think about your wants and needs from time to time. The happier you are, the more love you can give to someone else.
2. “I shouldn’t talk about my feelings.”
There’s always been a stigma when it comes to the expression of emotions and feelings. People are told to stop being ‘weak’ and to ‘just get over it’. But bottling up our feelings does nothing to resolve the hurt. It simply pushes the feelings aside and prolongs the pain. It is okay to admit that you are sad, that you’re not coping, or that you’ve hit a crossroads and have absolutely no idea which direction to take. If you find it difficult to talk to a friend or a professional, then write your feelings down. Above all else, don’t ignore your feelings – you and them matter.
3. “It’s okay to be mistreated.”
All of us deserve to be treated with respect. However, we may not always get what we deserve. But no matter how much these people tear us down, we need to remind ourselves that what they’re doing is not right. That we deserve better.
4. “I have to live life according to someone else’s schedule.”
Although it’s recommended that women have children before 30 and men before 40, we shouldn’t let society, our peers, our family/friends, determine how we live our life. If we feel we’re not ready to get married and/or have children, we should do what feels right for us. Forget the plan that everyone else has and follow your own.
5. “My physical health doesn’t matter.”
Yes, it does. Studies have shown time and time again that regular exercise can reduce the symptoms of depression and anxiety. It can help us gain confidence and cope with stress. Just like with exercise, healthy eating will make our bodies stronger, our minds shaper and improve our well-being.
6. “I’m not allowed to dislike anyone.”
We’re not going to get along with everyone that we come across. But that doesn’t mean that arguments are bound to occur either. No matter our differences, we can still learn to be civil and respectful of each other. We can even learn from our interactions with them.
7. “I’m too busy to make time for my loved ones.”
We all have our own responsibilities – our family and friends, our work life, our careers to worry about. But we need to try our best to make time for our loved ones. Our family and friends will be there for us during the good and bad times – they will help us to grow into better people.
8. “I’m not allowed to forgive without forgetting.”
All of our experiences are learning experiences – if we act like they didn’t happen, then we’d be erasing the lesson that we’ve learned. We can choose to forgive the people involved and move on from the past, while using the experience as a lesson for the future.
9. “I’m not good enough.”
Having the ability to believe in yourself is vital to your personal and professional happiness. All of us are afraid of failure. But we need to have the courage to try. And even if we fail, we need to have the strength to get back up again.
As Michael Jordan once said, “I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
10. “Being content is good enough.”
Challenges are what makes life great. Rather than just being content, we should be striving to be the best that we can be. Continual personal growth should always be the goal.
Although it’s easier said than done to undo the negative self-talk that we tell ourselves, it is definitely possible. It will take a lot of time and practice, but if negative self-talk can run through a person’s mind, so can positive self-talk, don’t you think? So before you say another negative word to yourself, ask yourself this question: “If I had a friend who spoke to me in the same way that I sometimes speak to myself, would I still be friends with this person?”
This
article was written by Thuy Yau. Thuy is a freelance writer living in
Perth, Australia. She is incredibly passionate about making a positive
difference in the world and hopes to inspire others to do the same. Her
work has appeared on the Australian news sites: Sydney Morning Herald,
WA Today and The Age. You can check out her personal development blog at
www.insideamothersmind.comsource- http://www.purposefairy.com/67802/10-negative-things-you-should-stop-telling-yourself-today/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+PurposeFairy+%28Purpose+Fairy+-+Challenging+People+to+Challenge+Themselves%29
недеља, 19. јануар 2014.
Embracing Compassion as a Catalyst for Healthy Change
Embracing Compassion as a Catalyst for Healthy Change
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” ~ Carl RodgersI used to believe I could whip myself into healthy change. That through iron discipline and willpower, I could mold myself into the person I wanted to be.
It worked, of course…for about a week. I went through a few days of model eating, cutting out gluten one week, sugar the next. But then I would crash and go through a phase of eating anything and everything before I found the ‘motivation’ to start all over again.
It was never ending. And quite useless, really. I was missing the point. The point that fear and guilt do not lead to lasting change. And that self-compassion is the missing ingredient for healthy change.
Sounds strange? I thought so, too. Like most people, I thought showing myself compassion would lead to laziness and complacency. Yet research shows that self-compassion is actually more conducive to change than being critical of ourselves.After all, if you reject your body and convince yourself you can only embrace it when it changes, how do you expect to take care of it right now to give it what it the love it needs to actually change?
To illustrate this notion, which of the following voices are you most likely to listen to if you were trying to find the motivation to go to the gym?
Voice 1: “Look at you, you disgust me – you’re so fat, I hardly recognize you anymore. Get up NOW and go to the gym to get that lazy ass into shape.”
Voice 2: “ Poor you, this has been a really difficult period and you really deserve to watch TV instead of going to the gym. It won’t make much difference anyway, you can always go tomorrow!”
Voice 3: “I understand this is a really difficult period and that you don’t feel like exercising right now. I care for you and I want you to look and feel your best – and I know you’ll feel better after going to the gym.”
I am sure you’ll agree that the Voice 3 is a lot nicer to carry around in your head – and the one most likely to get you to the gym! But be honest – which one are you more likely to use? Most people talk to themselves with the voice of a harsh critic, much like Voice 1, and believe showing themselves compassion to be like Voice 2. Yet Voice 2 is not the voice of someone who will push you out of your comfort zone because they care for you. Similarly, Voice 1 makes most of us just want to rebel and say no because we don’t like to be forced into doing something, even by ourselves.
So next time you want to make healthy change, why not give it a try? Become aware of your inner dialogue and speak to yourself in the same way a wise friend would. Because in the end, the only person any of us is 100% sure will always be there, every minute of our life, is ourself.
Source: Research on self-compassion by Dr Kristin Neff.
This article was written by Hiba Giacoletto. Hiba is a
Certified Health Coach from the Institute for Integrative Nutrition
(IIN) with a Masters Degree in Psychology. A former sugar addict, she
completely changed her way of eating, living and even thinking when she
discovered she had a rare kidney disease at 29. Connect with Hiba on www.healthwise.ch, Facebook and Twittersource- http://www.purposefairy.com/67439/embracing-compassion-as-a-catalyst-for-healthy-change/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=feed&utm_campaign=Feed%3A+PurposeFairy+%28Purpose+Fairy+-+Challenging+People+to+Challenge+Themselves%29
петак, 17. јануар 2014.
Relax, Let Go and Enjoy Life a Little More
Relax, Let Go and Enjoy Life a Little More
“You
can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light
and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don’t know it,
all of that doesn’t even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting
your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a
second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It’s
not like you have forever, so don’t waste any of your seconds, don’t
throw even one of your moments away.” ― C. JoyBell C.Somebody asked me recently, “Luminita, what are you really good at? What is the one thing that you can do better than anyone else. What makes you, you? and the words came out of my mouth immediately: “Helping people see themselves in the same way they would love the whole world to see them, as beautiful, worthy, loving and creative beings. I am really good at bringing out the best in people, at helping them accept, embrace and love who they are. This is what I’m good at. I’m good at helping them replace doubt, fear and insecurity with love. Might sound cheesy, but this is what I’m good at.”
If you ask me, we are too hard on ourselves. We don’t know how to treat ourselves in the same way we would want those around us to treat us. We don’t know what it means to be our own best friends. We don’t know what it means to offer ourselves the love and support we so desperately seek outside ourselves.
We criticize, label, judge and condemn ourselves constantly. We deprive ourselves of nourishment, encouragement and compassion and we treat ourselves as if we are our own worst enemy.
If we could only hear the words we are telling ourselves… We can’t seem to see ourselves for what we really are.
“I wish I could show you when you are lonely or in darkness the astonishing light of your own being.” Hafiz
We lack trust, we lack faith, we lack self confidence and we lack self-compassion… We lack self love. In fact, I don’t even know how many of us fully understand what self love is all about.
We are so absorbed by our own created misery, by our many illusionary fears, flaws and imperfections that we can’t seem to see ourselves clearly anymore. We have no idea who we really are.
If you were to find out that you only had one month left to live, do think all of the things you stress and worry about on a daily basis would even matter to you? I doubt that.
I had a period in my life when I secretly wished to have a near death experience just so that I would finally start living. I know it sounds crazy but I remember reading all kind of stories about people who drastically changed their lives after they were so close to death and in my mind I thought that maybe a NDE will help.
Well, you don’t really need to have a NDE to start living life fully but ”If you want to escape from your cage, you must die while you are alive.” and by doing so you will discover that there is nothing to fear.
“Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.” ~ Dorothy Thompson
We want so much from life and yet, we aren’t willing to offer much in return.
We chase perfection. We want it all and we want it now. This need for perfection keeps us from appreciating what we have, where we are and who we have become, making our lives seem a lot harder than they actually are.
Life is hard not because life is hard but because we make it hard and it’s all because of our untamed and savaged mind. We have no idea how to stop thinking. There’s so much noise in our minds and it’s driving us crazy. We can’t stand to be alone, we can’t stand to be still…
We are uncomfortable with silence, not knowing that ”It is out of the silence, or “the gap,” or that space between our thoughts, that everything is created-including our own bliss.” ~ Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Life is not hard because that’s how life is. Life is hard because we make it hard. How do we make our lives hard? Very simple.
We make life hard by constantly doubting and questioning our worth.
We make life hard by looking for love and approval in all the wrong places.
We make life hard by clinging on to our past, fears, excuses and limitations.
We make life hard by clinging on to pointless drama, thoughts and behaviors and by refusing to let go of people who no longer need, or want to be in your life.
We make life hard by ignoring, hiding and running away from the many good things life sends our way.
We make life hard by facing reality, by following the rules others created for us instead of creating our own reality and our own rules.
We make life hard by thinking that there isn’t anything special about us and that everyone else deserves to live a happy life except ourselves.
We make life hard by believing every thought that we think and by allowing these negative and self defeating thoughts to dictate how we should live our lives.
We make our lives hard by attaching ourselves to the many ideas we have in our head about how life should be lived and how happiness should be packaged and delivered to us.
We make our lives hard by trying to control everything and everyone instead of allowing things to take their natural course.
We need to learn to relax, let go and enjoy life a little more. Things aren’t as bad as our minds are trying to make us think. They really aren’t.
Learn to quiet your mind from to time. Make peace with yourself. Work on purifying your thoughts and you’ll end up purifying your entire life. It’s that simple and yet that complicated.
Start small. Take one step at a time, one breath at a time.
Make each day a beautiful day and when you will look back you’ll realize that you’ve built a beautiful life.
One step at a time. One day at a time… This is how it’s done. No need to complicate things.
Follow the advice of Sonia Ricotti, “Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be.” and trust that life will take good care of you, because it will, if you’re willing to relax, let go and get out of your own way
If I were to ask you the same question, “what are you really good at? What is the one thing that you can do better than anyone else. What makes you, you?”, what would be your answer? You can share your answer by joining the conversation in the comment section below
With all my love,
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The Science of Happiness
January 15 by Charnita Fance in Health, Lifestyle |
The Science of Happiness
Everyone could use more happiness; we are never truly 100% happy with our lives. If you want to know the science of happiness and how to be more happy, this infographic does a great job of breaking it down for you. The hippocampus is the area of the brain that is responsible for happiness and memories, so you really should know how to feed and nurture it to help boost your mood in down times.
Can you guess what the top four happiest occupations are in the world? What about the two countries with the most optimistic people, or the two countries with the most satisfied people are? The answers, which can be found on the infographic, may surprise you.
As you probably already know, the country you live in has a lot to do with how happy you are. The happiest people in the world happen to live in Iceland, Denmark, Sweden, Netherlands and Australia. So a move from one country to another could be all you need to really give yourself a happiness boost.
Other things that can help include getting more exercising, sleeping more (if you’re not sleeping enough) and helping out in your community. What methods do you use to increase your happiness and boost your mood?
source- http://www.lifehack.org/articles/lifestyle/the-science-happiness.html?utm_source=Lifehack&utm_campaign=4be26f7279-RSS_EMAIL_CAMPAIGN&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_983e966a3e-4be26f7279-414870493
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