4 Reasons Why Change Is Good for You

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“If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading.” ~ Lao Tzu

I was terrified of Change. Seven years ago I was on the precipice of losing all of those intrinsic qualities that defined me as a unique human being, I was at a loss as what to do.  Eating had become my drug of choice and as the size 44 inch waistline expanded, blood vessels were constricting in unison as I worked myself to a heart attack or a stroke. The only way to save my life was a total commitment to making changes that would affect the total human being. Even knowing this I was still scared of losing all the “good” I perceived that I had. It took a leap of blind faith that the Universe would land me safely before I could make positive gains in my own life. I am a fan of change because this is what saved my life. All I can really attest is o how my life has been enriched since.

Change can be an extremely powerful and at times distressing force.  The harbingers of change may present themselves at those crossroads of our lives where seismic events shake our foundations and all that is comfortable. Be it the divorce, illness, accident, or situation that throws us headlong into circumstances where we have to sink or swim. There are also times when the signs that we are transitioning to a new phase are disguised in such a way that unless we lift those societal blinders that took years to develop, we will not be ready to understand what the Universe wants us to know. Society seems to encourage us to live in what our relative cultural experience defines as the status quo and not necessarily what really lies within the heart.
Change is a process that plays itself out on all levels differently for everyone. This includes the idea that whether a person decides to change where they are in life is an individual decision. We have the absolute right to live our lives in a manner in which we want, as long as we do not cause harm to others. There are a million miles between existing where you are and deciding in your mind to change, there are a million more between deciding in your mind to change and taking concrete steps to make it happen.
So why should we accept this notion of change and what may result?

1. Embrace the Forces of Change

Change is inevitable. It is thrust upon us. Being conceived is the first change in circumstances that we could not control. There was then no option but to leave warmth and security and face blinding light and a cacophony of noises, some of which sounded familiar. Aging in a part of our nature and dying is the ultimate transition. Knowing these inevitable seasons will occur and there no permanence, why not truly live and change those circumstances that do not enhance us by changing those things we can control.
“The only thing that is constant is change.” ~ Heraclitus

2. Inviting Change enhances the relationship with our Self

When we do not change those things that do not enhance us, we stagnate and become complacent. We hit the start button on the treadmill of life and walk in the same place without going anywhere until we hit pause, feel the treadmill come to a slow stop, and just turn off. We get frustrated and at times angry as to where we are in our life. There is nothing outside of your own self that will ever make you happy. Acquisitions, both animate and inanimate, satisfy temporary urges, but cannot substitute for the ongoing, ever blossoming relationship we create with ourselves.
Change is also evident when we recognize and confront those demons that control our actions and decision making based upon past conditioning. When those actions and the reasons for taking them are no longer part of our fabric, we are enhancing ourselves because actions taken are not solely for self-gain or heart protection. We enhance this self-relationship by shedding that which deters the expression of our full true self. Invite into life change that does not harm. This then encourages the mind, body and soul to engage in activity that promulgates their health and well-being. A positive frame of mind affects all those we come into contact.
“When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.” ~ Viktor E. Frankl

3. Positive Change affects our relationship with all those around us

As we change and grow, we gain a deeper understanding and appreciation which then translates to how we see others and the world around us. Ideas such as love and compassion are no longer terms of art, but a way to live. Change brings about the release of relationships that are toxic. Only when we go through this change will we be ready to form healthy relationships with others.  Now that we are beyond an ego self, we see the bigger picture.  As we become citizens of the world around us, we begin to focus on what is really needed by the less fortunate around us and the resources necessary to accomplish any goals. Self-actualization leads to change in all facets of life and a sense of balance.

4. Maintaining a Balanced life through change affect all other aspects of Being

By achieving and keeping a sense of inner harmony, decisions made on all aspects of life are seen through a lens of self-awareness. Change in life is a constant , who we are this instant is not the same person we were yesterday because every experience, no matter how trivial we think it may be shapes and molds our decision making process. Where we live, what we eat, what job we keep are all in a state of flux as we go about living. Life shifts, so it is important to maintain a sense of balance in all we do.
There are aspects of Change in which we have choice. What changes we invite is entirely dependent on where we want to be. I Chose Living Life and am thankful for the doors the Universe has opened for me since.
Since change is the only constant in life, why do you think so many people are afraid of change?  You can share your insights by joining the conversation in the comment section below 
This article was written by Victor Reyes. Victor enjoys writing, lectures nationally on the issue of domestic violence and traveling to perform humanitarian work. He is currently working on a book about his experiences working in the matrix of the judicial system.

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5 Things You Can Do To Love Your Authentic Self More

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“I had no idea that being your authentic self could make me as rich as I’ve become. If I had, I’d have done it a lot earlier.” Oprah Winfrey
It can be easy to love other people but it’s not always easy to love your authentic self, am I right?
We can be kind and loving towards others but not that kind and loving towards ourselves and that is exactly why I decided to write this post and to share with you some ideas on how to start accepting who you are and how to start to love all of you, the good and the bad.

1. STOP UNDERVALUING YOUR AUTHENTIC SELF

You are not perfect, nobody is and that is perfectly fine, so stop being so harsh on yourself. Start paying close attention to your own thoughts and see whether they serve you or not. Are these thoughts good thoughts, are they kind and loving, are they empowering? If not, let them go and shift your focus from the things you think are wrong with you towards the things that are okay, towards those things that are unique and beautiful. If you don’t know what those things are, go ask a friend and you will soon find out what an incredible being they think you are.
If you continue to look down at yourself, expect others to do the same, because just like William Hazlitt said, “He who undervalues himself is justly undervalued by others.”

2. CUT YOURSELF SOME SLACK

Don’t be afraid to express yourself, don’t be afraid to speak your mind and don’t be afraid to be who you are and act the way you feel like. The world is full of people who act the way others want them to and not the way they want to … you don’t have to live your life that way.
I can tell you from my own experience the moment you accept yourself completely and the moment you start acting the way you feel like acting, more and more people will be drawn to you and not only you will realize there is so much about you to love, but you will also start projecting this love on to others.
“So then, the relationship of self to other is the complete realization that loving yourself is impossible without loving everything defined as other than yourself.” – Alan Watts

3. BUILD THE FRIENDSHIP YOU HAVE WITH YOURSELF 

The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself and if you don’t work on building and improving this relationship, chances are you will not be too happy. Be kind and loving towards yourself and make an effort to start seeing yourself as your own best friend because the moment you do, you will realize there is no friendship more valuable than the friendship you have with you own self.
What are the things you love to do and what keeps you away from actually doing them? What are the excuses you are using not to do these things? Can you let go of these excuses and start spoiling yourself from time to time? I think you can and I also think you should allow yourself to be happy.
“Friendship with one’s self is all important, because without it one cannot be friends with anyone else in the world.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

4. INVEST IN YOURSELF

Take time to learn and to grow, take time to nurture your dreams and goals, take action and commit to making them happen. By doing so, you will have little or no time at all to waste on stuff that bothers you, and all your focus, energy and attention will be directed towards the improvement of self. If you only do this one step, I promise you, you will be living a very happy and fulfilling life and many of the people around you will admire you and also feel inspired by your actions and behavior.
“There’s only one corner of the universe you can be certain of improving, and that’s your own self.” – Aldous Huxley

5. GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF FORGIVENESS

You can’t ignore the role forgiveness plays in all of this. Whether we are talking about others or yourself, it is crucial to understand the power behind forgiveness and why you need to exercise it.
Who are the people you need to forgive and for what? Why is it that you feel you can’t forgive them? Do you realize that by not forgiving them you are in fact not allowing yourself to fully experience life?
A good way would be to regard the people you need to forgive as teachers. This way it will become easier for you to forgive, find the strength to move on and enjoy life. This also applies in situations when you need to forgive yourself for something you have done in the past, because a past mistake has most certainly taught you something valuable, right?
“Inner peace can be reached only when we practice forgiveness. Forgiveness is letting go of the past, and is therefore the means of correcting our misperceptions.” - Gerald Jampolsky
With all my love,

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By Doing What You Love, Success Will Follow

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I always say to people: Do what you love, follow your bliss, listen to your heart and intuition, and know that by doing so, success will have no choice but to follow.
Of course, when you get stuck in a job you don’t love, when you are doing the things that took you off your path for too long, hearing words like: doing what you love, success, passion, etc. can be quite irritating.
Most of us live with this impression that we don’t really have control over what we do, over what happens to us, over our happiness and our unhappiness, and that we are victims, and of course, as victims, all we know how to do, is defend ourselves. Because we spend so much time in the defending mode, we forget who we really are, we forget that we do have a choice, and that we do have the ability to shift our lives in the right direction.
I promised that I will write a post on how to do what you love and still be able to pay your bills, and I will like to share with you all, some things that I have learned over the years from great teachers, people like Emerson, Henry David Thoreau, Lao Tzu, Rumi, Dale Carnegie, Wayne Dyer, and many, many others.
First of all, I strongly believe, actually, I don’t believe, I know, that we all have something unique and special about ourselves, and that what I have, no one has, and what you have, no other person in the world has, and I also know that these are our unique gifts and talents, these are the things that we are born with, and if we choose to focus and work on them, and with them, we will encounter success, and we will be happy, we will be content with our lives, our environment, our friends, family, and all that will happen to us and all around us.
This is not something I invented, it is something that every successful person who is doing what he/she loves, will tell you. You want to be happy, work with that which you love, with that which you are so passionate about, and you will discover things about yourself that you never though were there.
As I was writting this and as I was lising down these great teachers, all of these quotes started runing through my mind, and I want to share with you a few of them, just so you can better understand how important it is to work with your passions, with your unique gifts and talents.
So here they are:
“Let the beauty of what you love be what you do.” Rumi
“Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life.” Wayne Dyer
“Are you bored with life? Then throw yourself into some work you believe in with all your heart, live for it, die for it, and you will find happiness that you had thought could never be yours.” Dale Carnegie
“In dwelling, live close to the ground. In thinking, keep to the simple. In conflict, be fair and generous. In governing, don’t try to control. In work, do what you enjoy. In family life, be completely present.” Lao Tzu
“If there is no passion in your life, then have you really lived? Find your passion, whatever it may be. Become it, and let it become you and you will find great things happen FOR you, TO you and BECAUSE of you.”Alan Armstrong
“Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” Emerson
“If one advances confidently in the direction of one’s dreams, and endeavors to live the life which one has imagined, one will meet with a success unexpected in common hours.” Henry David Thoreau
If right now, you are in a place where you aren’t exactly doing the things you love, or maybe, you can’t even get a job, you might want to pause for a while and start asking yourself a couple of questions, questions that might help you discover what is it that you really want, why is it that your life is the way it is, where would you like to be headed, how does the perfect life looks for you, and many other question that might help you get back on the right track and start living the life that  you really deserve.
Is where you are right now really that bad? How will things be different once you get from A to Z? Will you be happy then? How do you know this is true? Will you be willing to let go of some “security” for a while in order to start on your journey of self discovery and self mastery? Are you willing to take some risks?
These are some things you might to consider that maybe you haven’t thought about, or maybe you were to afraid to do it because of the answered you might have got, but if you really want to make your dreams become realty, you will have to faced them all.
I can’t tell you something that you don’t know already, I can’t tell you some secret formula that will help you do the things you love and still be able to pay the bills (and this is something that I don’t think you would want for yourself, to just survive, to pay your bills), but what I can tell you is this: Always choose to focus on the things you do want to attract in your life, always choose to focus on that which is positive rather than negative, and picture yourself as already having the life that you want for yourself, knowing that by doing so, you will attract all that you need in order to make your dreams become reality.
Also, what I have personally learned from my mentor, Wayne Dyer, is to always use these powerful words: I Am!
When you use these two powerful words “I am”, followed by any statement, visualizing it, and adding emotion and certainty to it, you become one with it and it becomes one with you. When you combine these two powerful words with emotion and images, the whole universe will conspire to make it happen.
I am doing what I love, and I love what I do.
I am living a prosperous life, etc.
I am discovering new and great talents every day, talents I didn’t even knew I have…
Your mind does not know how to differentiate between what is real and what is not, and by repeating these words to yourself, you will attract the right people, the right ideas, the right circumstance, and all that you need in order to become the person you want to become.
So if you are you willing to start the voyage of discovery into unknown lands and rediscover yourself, if you are willing to experience some short tearm pain and discomfort so that you can later experience real happiness, you will be able to do what you love and be successful at it.
With all my love,







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How to Give Up Taking the Hard Road and Find the Middle Way

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“Is your doing surrendered or non-surrendered? This is what determines your success in life, not how much effort you make. Effort implies stress and strain, needing to reach a certain point in the future or accomplish a certain result.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
It’s a popular myth that can be hard to shake, namely that the hard road is the best route, and the harder you work at your purpose, the bigger and sooner you will succeed. It’s the belief that working until blood pours from your forehead is secretly preferable to a more balanced steady approach. Think about it: how many of us love to proclaim how busy we are? How many of us love to proclaim how balanced we are? Even if we consciously dismiss the idea that the arduous is the best, it’s in the air: trying harder and being harder on yourself wins the game.
Except every bit of research shows this is a lie. Extensive research shows self-compassion and a slow and steady, step-by-small-step approach is what creates true success – the kind of success that is aligned with your purpose and your heart. But living that research, that truth, can be oh so elusive. Personally, I tend to vacillate between “I’ll just answer one more email before I pee” until I almost don’t make it to the bathroom and thinking “I’ll just visualize my way to writing my next book, no need to actually put in the time.” In other words, the Buddha’s beautiful middle way can elude me, and that can tie me in knots where I actually get little done.
Until I remember the brain in my heart. Those amazing 40,000 plus neurons scattered throughout my heart and yours, offering us an elegant and effective way to step off the hard road and glide (or sometimes stumble) onto the middle way. In case you didn’t know, your “heart brain” is a complex nervous system that operates independently of your cranial brain. It learns and remembers, feels and senses, and it directly influences your higher brain functions, much more so than your cranial brain.  Research has shown the faster and most effective way to calm your central nervous system and turn on your decision-making, creativity, and intuition is through activating your heart brain.
I think of it as an emotional thermostat I can use anywhere any time to realign me with what’s most important and to instill just the right measure of chill. To live my purpose through focused intentional feeling.
Try it out – see what you think:
Become aware of your body. That might mean simply remembering you have a body, it might mean making a quick trip for that long overdue pee, it might mean feeling the chair you are sitting against and taking a couple of full breaths. Make it easy.
Place your hand on your heart (unless you’re driving and this will make you careen into traffic which would defeat the purpose of the whole exercise). Recall a time when you were feeling balanced and productive, living with purpose and relaxed about outcome. Too tall an order? Simply remember a time you felt good – the last time you had a great orgasm or floated down a lazy warm river or hung out with friends who really get you. Spend about a minute letting these feelings grow stronger.  Let the specific memory fade and focus just on the good feelings… not straining or naming what you’re feeling, just relaxing into the good feelings.
Now ask yourself, “What is the simplest thing I could next?”  You might have a “next” in mind – a specific project or situation, or maybe not. Doesn’t matter. Trust the power of your heart brain to show you just right next step.
Then take that step. Notice what you know now.  Rinse and repeat the process – it only takes about a minute. Notice after a couple of days if you’ve found your middle way. How does it feel? What results are you noticing? Make a few notes so that when you forget and start hoofing it up the hard road again (we all do!), you have proof that your heart brain can help.
It’s always there, right inside you, ready to be tapped, ready to help you live your purposeful life!
Do you believe that self-compassion and a slow and steady, step-by-small-step approach can lead to true success? You can share your comment by joining the conversation in the comment section below 
This article was written by Jen Louden. Jen is a personal growth pioneer who helped launch the self-care movement with her first book The Woman’s Comfort Book. She’s the author of 5 additional books on well-being and whole living, including The Life Organizer, that have inspired more than a million women in 9 languages. Jen has spoken around the world on self-care, written a national magazine column, and even sat on Oprah’s couch talking about the power of retreats.  She believes self-love + world-love = wholeness for all.  Visit  www.JenniferLouden.com for fab free goodies and upcoming retreat schedule.

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The 5 Root Causes of Self Sabotage and How to Untangle Them

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“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” ~ Alyce P. Cornyn-Selby
Who DOESN’T struggle with some form of indulgence in procrastination, distraction, overwhelm, or self-sabotage from time to time (um… DAILY!)?
No one I’ve ever met.
We’d be creatively alive, deeply connected with ourselves and others, and just the right amount of productive every second of every day if it weren’t for the (mostly unconscious) bad habits that hold us back.
After observing all my own bad habits––my self-saboteur related slips and recoveries––and after all the hundreds of coaching sessions I’ve facilitated around this topic, I’ve come to see that, more often than not, we’re the ONLY thing standing in the way of our greatest freedom and success.
As for the root causes of the self-sabotage and what to do to untangle them, there is no question. The biggest problems stem from these five behaviors:

1. Too much hustle and not enough self-care and connection.

When our ‘love tank’ is empty because we’ve put ourselves last for too long, we won’t make clear decisions and we’re likely to sabotage even our most precious relationships.
What to do instead:
Stick to consistent baby steps, but make them count. Let go of the rigid, overly sophisticated self-care practices that feel like a chore and instead, commit to doing ONE thing a day to help yourself feel good physically and emotionally. For example:
- Take 3 deep breaths to get grounded.
- Dance to your favorite song.
- Eat one meal slowly with full presence.
Whatever action you take, make it count by simultaneously acknowledging your innermost emotional core (AKA your Inner Child). Picture yourself at around age 5––tender, fun-loving, and attention-hungry––then whisper, “hey… this is just for you… I’ll always do something just for you every day”. As hokey as it may sound, taking this baby step daily, combining the nourishing action with the self-acknowledgment, reinforces the belief that you’re worthy of great love and care AND capable of giving it to yourself. This boosts creative and intuitive abilities and builds massive self-trust and self-assurance.

2. Zooming too far out when setting goals.

When we reach for a ‘Point Z’ instead of a ‘Point B’, we’ll feel pressure, doubt, and overwhelm and won’t know where to start to find relief (much less, generate any momentum).
What to do instead:
Zoom in to your true ‘Point B’. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had someone describe to me their ‘Point B’ (where they’re aiming to get to in their lives within 3-6 months), and it’s such a crammed picture that even hearing it is overwhelming. It’s no wonder they feel incapable of breaking their vision down into doable, bite-sized pieces and action steps. And yet, to get any traction, that’s exactly what has to be done. If you ever slip into this behavior, stop and ask yourself:
- “What would a little bit of improvement look and feel like?”
- “What needs to happen first to bring relief and remove some pressure?”
- “How can I scale my vision back, and back, and back some more… so far back that it feels doable, simple, and clear… like I can begin to take action on it NOW?”
That should be the content of a true Point B, nothing more.

3. Blending work time with leisure time.

Without clear time boundaries, we’ll feel as though we’re living in the ‘grey zone’––foggy, unproductive, and probably guilty too.
What to do instead:
A. When you’re working, work. Don’t do the ‘grass is greener’ thing or crack out on Facebook. And don’t spend all day every day doing the easy projects while completely avoiding the challenging ones that are actually higher priority. Hold your Point B vision in mind as you tackle highest priorities first, and as a rule of thumb, ONLY do activities that directly generate income or build your career from right where you are. Even if you’re not currently in a career you love, try to love the shit out of it while you do all that you can every day during your work hours to rock your current position.
Wallace D. Wattles, in his classic book, The Science of Getting Rich, describes this way of operating as “more than filling your present place”, and says that it cultivates magnetism and creates “the impression of increase” right where you are. It fuels you to add more value and “create increase” in all that you do. It makes you more attractive, more indispensable, more inspiring––and all of these qualities will only increase momentum towards your Point B, even if your Point B feels unrelated to your current roles and routines. When you arrive at your Point B, Voila! It becomes your Point A… then clarity, evolution, and momentum continue as you create a new Point B vision and take consistent baby steps to move towards it.
B. When you’re NOT working, DON’T work. Visualize. Play. Savor. Chop vegetables. Eat with friends. Nap. Dance. Nourish yourself and unplug best you can.

4. Resisting like crazy because we’re believing our own made-up stories.

When we make meaning that fills us with stress or hold a judgment or perspective that puts us at war with ourselves, with others, or with reality as it currently is, we rob ourselves of our power, joy, and presence. Until we’re willing to question these stories and tease apart assumptions from factual truths, we cannot be free.
What to do instead: (*This one’s a doozy, and it’s super counterintuitive, but hang with me… it’s the crux!)
A. First things first: Recognize that you are resisting, then be your own best ‘vent buddy’ and let yourself feel… don’t edit. Be like that Godsend of a friend who’s always willing to hear you vent HONESTLY––f-bombs, finger pointing and all. Meet yourself where you are and give yourself full permission to feel exactly what you feel. Don’t try to be happier or more aware. That’s too big of a jump right now and it will just feel fake. (Then you’d be more like that irritating friend who always tries to coach you and tell you how to be more positive, rather than just loving you as you are and giving you room to have whatever experience you’re having in the moment).
Breathe to feel your current feeling more and just STAY, without editing, censoring, or reaching for a different feeling. Note: If you try to force a feeling of acceptance––or worse, gratitude––when you’re REALLY feeling like you want to PUNCH something (or someone), the resistance will only grow stronger, you won’t feel like you’re honoring yourself, and you won’t like the choices you make from that place. So the first (and probably the HARDEST) step is to just take a moment and feel whatever is there. Then the ‘energy in motion’ (the e-motion) can naturally work its way out. You can also help it along if you:
- Shadowbox your face off (even better if you do it to loud music).
- Curl into a ball on the floor and weep.
- Scream into a pillow or go for a fierce sprint down the road.
- Yell “GET OUT!” over and over again, from deep inside your gut.
(If you’re in a public place and you don’t want to scare people or make them call the crazy people police to come and lock you up, try just closing your eyes and vividly imagining yourself doing any of the above).
Do whatever you have to to let yourself acknowledge and feel what’s alive in you so that the energy can move. Once it does, and you’re feeling some relief––you’re a little less in your head and a little more in your body––trace the bad feelings back to their origin: the stories and judgements you were spinning that caused you to feel so shitty. Gently own up to the fact that you are the author of the stories and hence, the resulting discomfort––and this is GOOD NEWS because it means you can change it.
*Praise Jesus, Buddha, Allah, and the whole damn Universe… Hallelujah!
B. Once you have some of your power back and a slower, more curious, objective, and observant mind feels accessible––one at a time––examine the stress-creating stories or judgments you have to see if hanging them up would bring relief.
Example stories: He shouldn’t have lied to me. I should have made more progress by now. She should’ve behaved differently. My body is too large. I have nothing to offer.
Check each one out, compared to actual factual reality as it currently exists:
- “Can I know for sure that this story is true?”
- “How do I act and feel when I believe it?”
- “What sensations and postural changes take place in my body?”
- “Does this story bring peace or stress into my life?”
- “What would happen if I didn’t have the ability to entertain this story anymore––how would I and my experience be different?”
- “Are there any STRESS-FREE reasons NOT to let go of this story?”
- “What if the exact OPPOSITE of this story were actually just as true… or MORE true––can I get curious enough to see how that might be?”
C. The most counterintuitive step yet: Stop trying to make the stressful thoughts go away, and just pay attention. Even after moving through the intense feelings, catching and investigating the stories that triggered those feelings, and seeing the senselessness in holding onto the stories, it can feel scary or even impossible to let them go. It doesn’t make any logical sense because we’ve just determined that they are the very cause of our suffering, but nonetheless, these stories can feel like old familiar security blankets. And the truth is, we CAN’T really let go of them. (At least I’ve never found a way. I’ve got a shit ton of willpower but that doesn’t seem to have a thing to do with it.) It’s almost as if the stories themselves have to be the ones to let go of us, and until they do, we just have to stop indulging them.
Here’s how:
Don’t try to “fix” anything or make yourself let go of the stories as that will only cause them to stick around (what we resist persists and grows stronger). Instead, as the mind spins stories (that’s its job… it’s always going to spin stories and make meaning), just keep a portion of your focus on your interior and notice your breath. Don’t try to change your breath, just use it as a way to connect to your core––that wise, timeless, witnessing part of yourself that trusts, even amidst the external chaos, that all is well. Noticing your breath can just bring you back to that grounded place of “I am okay” because it reminds you that:
As much as you are this body breathing, and this mind thinking, you are also the witness watching yourself being breathed.
With access to that remembrance, you can see a bigger picture and perhaps a bigger truth. There can be space, some tiny breaks, between all the stressful thoughts and stories.
Next, from that more spacious place, make like an archaeologist and get your witness on. Study, observe, watch the thoughts and stories spin while you do your best not to entertain them. Notice what sensations arise but don’t add labels or try to change your experience. Paying attention is enough.
When you don’t feed into the stories, they eventually complete themselves, then you come out of it unscathed. Probably even a little bit more compassionate towards yourself and all the other “meaning-making machines” on this planet who suffer because of their own stinkin’ thinkin’.
For more on freeing yourself from your imprisoning stories, explore the work of Byron Katie and experiment with using the free ‘Judge Your Neighbor’ worksheets that she makes available on her home page, www.thework.com.

5. Trying to manage what isn’t ours to manage.

When we step outside of our own business (into God’s or someone else’s business––trying to control the weather, a certain outcome, or a certain someone, for instance), we immediately feel disempowered. And rightfully so, because outside of our own business, we have no power to affect change. This is a waste of our precious energy.
What to do instead:
A. Come back to your own business. Focus on things that ARE yours to manage––the parts of YOU and your way of being that are within your power to control, i.e. your attitude, actions, and perspectives.
B. Exercise ‘Big Trust’. Stop grasping for certainty in areas where you can’t yet have it, and put your energy towards the ‘sure things’. Start by making a ‘Love List’. Decide what you LOVE and what you feel SURE about in life, i.e. your kids, the clients you adore, the elements of your work that most light you up, the things you love to do that make you feel stronger and more like yourself, etc. Focus ONLY on the good (not what you want to “fix”) and list out all the things in your life you genuinely feel certain about or that feel like a perfect fit. Then, notice what didn’t make the list.
Make peace with these things you don’t feel SURE about because obviously––according to reality (AKA God)––they aren’t yet yours to know, figure out, act on, or feel certain about. So leave them be. Pull your claws out of needing to control them. Stop looking for answers that aren’t there. These things are not your business, at least not now.
Invest your time, heart and resources into the things you’re sure about now, and trust that more will be revealed and clarity will come through the action you take to nourish and build the ‘sure things’.
*Note: We are not our behavior. AND, this work is easier said than done.
So approach all of this––especially the way you treat yourself as you attempt to catch and untangle these behaviors––with a sense of gentleness and compassionate curiosity. Remember that what we’re talking about here is Self Realization, becoming truly AWAKE as a consciously evolving human being. It’s a lifelong journey and there really are no shortcuts… but it’s worth it!
Paraphrasing the words of poet Tara Sophia Mohr:
We are not just these bodies and these egos––concepts, characters––we are beings having an experience in this moment.
We are no animals. We are galaxies with skin.
From Tara to us, via her poem Your Other Name:
Don’t forget your true name:
Presiding one. Home for the gleaming.
Strong Cauldron for the feast of light.
Strong Cauldron for the feast of light:
I am speaking to you.
I beg you not to forget.
This article was written by Kris Ward. Kris is the founder of AbundantYogi.com where she offers training and certification in Lifestyle Design Coaching™ and leads heart centered entrepreneurs toward lucrative self-realization and deep self-care. You can connect with Kris on her Facebook Page and Twitter Profile.

source- http://www.purposefairy.com/67319/the-5-root-causes-of-self-sabotage-and-how-to-untangle-them/

15 Powerful Things Happy People Do Differently

January 11, 2014 | By WakingTimes | 

Luminita Saviuc, Purpose Fairy
Waking Times
What are the differences between happy people and unhappy people? Of course, it should be very obvious:happy people are happy while  unhappy people are unhappy, right? Well, that is correct. But, we want to know what happy people do differently, so I have put together a list of things that happy people do differently than unhappy people.

1. Love vs. Fear

Well, I can tell you for sure that those people who are really happy, fear less and love a lot more. They see each moment, each challenge, each person as an opportunity to discover more about themselves and the world around them.

2. Acceptance vs. Resistance 

Happy people understand that you can’t really change a situation by resisting it, but you can definitely change it by accepting that it is there and by understanding that there might be a reason for its existence.
When something unpleasant happens to them, they don’t try to fight it (they know that this will make the situation even worse), but they ask themselves questions like: What can I learn from this? How can I make this better? And then they focus on the positive, rather than on the negative. They always seem to see the glass half full, no matter what happens to them.

3. Forgiveness vs. Unforgiveness

Really happy people know that it’s not healthy to hold on to anger. They choose to forgive and forget, understanding that forgiveness is  a gift they give to themselves first and foremost.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned. ~Buddha

4. Trust vs. Doubt

They trust themselves and they trust the people around them. Whether they are talking to the cleaning lady or the C.E.O. of a billion-dollar company, somehow they always seem make the person they are interacting with feel that there is something unique and special about them. They understand that beliefs are self-fulfilling prophecies.
Because of that, they make sure to treat everyone with love, dignity and respect, and make no distinction between age, sex, social status, color, religion or race. These are the great men that Mark Twain was talking about:

“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”

5. Meaning vs. Ambition

They do the things they do because of the meaning it brings into their lives and because it gives their lives a sense of purpose.  They understand that “Doing what you love is the cornerstone of having abundance in your life” as Wayne Dyer says.
And they care more about living a life full of meaningthan what, in our modern society we would call, living a successful life. The irony here is that most of the time they get both success and meaning because they choose to focus on doing the things they love the most and they always pursue their heart‘s desires. They are not motivated by money; they want to make a difference in the lives of those around them and in the world.

6. Praising vs. Criticizing

Happy people would probably agree with Carl Jung’s theory on resistance: “What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.”  They don’t criticize the absence of the behavior they want to reinforce, rather, they know by praising the person and the behavior they wish to reinforce (even if it’s not often), they will actually encourage the positive behavior.
When a parent wants to make sure their 7 year old boy will learn to always put the toys back in the box after he’s done playing with them, they make sure not to focus on the many times the child didn’t do it, criticizing him and his behavior, but every time the little boy does put the toys back, the parent praises him and his behavior and that is exactly how they reinforce the positive behavior, and in the end get the wanted results.

7. Challenges vs. Problems

Happy people will see problems as challenges, as opportunities to explore new ways of doing things, expressing their gratitude for them, understanding that underneath them all lay many opportunities that will allow them to expand and to grow.

8. Selflessness vs. Selfishness

They do what they do not for themselves, but for the good of others, making sure that they bring meaning, empowerment and happiness to the lives of many. They look for ways to give and to share the best of themselves with the world and to make other people happy.

Before giving, the mind of the giver is happy; while giving, the mind of the giver is made peaceful; and having given, the mind of the giver is uplifted. ~Buddha

9. Abundance vs. Lack/ Poverty 

They have an abundant mindset, living a balanced life, achieving abundance in all areas of life.

10. Dreaming Big vs. Being Realistic 

These people don’t really care about being realistic. They love and dare to dream big, they always listen to their heart and intuition and the greatness of their accomplishments scares many of us.

Dream no small dreams for they have no power to move the hearts of men. ~Goethe

11. Kindness vs. Cruelty

They are kind to themselves and others and they understand the power of self-love, self-forgiveness and self-acceptance.

12. Gratitude vs. Ingratitude

No matter where they look, no matter where they are or who they are with, they have the capacity to see beauty where most of us would only see ugliness, opportunities where most of us would only see struggles, abundance where most of us would only see lack and they express their gratitude for all of it.

13. Presence/ Engagement vs. Disengagement 

They know how to live in the present moment, appreciating what they have and where they are, while still dreaming big dreams about the future.

When you are present, you can allow the mind to be as it is without getting entangled in it. The mind in itself is a wonderful tool. Dysfunction sets in when you seek yourself in it and mistake it for who you are. ~Eckhart Tolle

14. Positivity vs. Negativity

No matter what happens to them, they always keep a positive perspective on everything and by doing so, they tend irritate a lot of negative and “realistic” people.

15. Taking Responsibility vs. Blaming 

They take full ownership over their lives and they rarely use excuses. Happy people understand that the moment you choose to blame some outside force for whatever is happening to you, you are in fact giving all your power away. They choose to keep their power and take responsibility for everything that happens to them.
How many of these things are you doing in order to become  a happier person? Share your insights by commenting below or by leaving your feedback on the PurposeFairy Facebook Page.
With all my love,

**This article was featured at Purpose Fairy.**
source- http://www.wakingtimes.com/2014/01/11/15-powerful-things-happy-people-differently/

Menjam premijera – Ivicacare

Dear leader, dragi vođo,
Hajde da spojimo sudove i da poravnamo pritisak .
Hajde da ukinemo društveno-ekonomski sistem koji se zasniva na krvopiću jer je na izdisaju.
Hajde da ukinemo razliku između reklama i stvarnog života.
Prateći  svetske i domaće trendove došla sam na ideju po ugledu na sistem ” Obamacare”  i  emisiju MENJAM ŽENU da zamenim premijera i da mu ponudim da se menjamo na nedelju dana sa životima, iako nismo istog pola , tim veći izazov.
Pozivam premijera da dođe i živi moj život nedelju dana a ja njegov.
Dozvoljeno poneti samo kofer stvari, kao za putovanje iako nije u pitanju provod.
Otvoriti konkurs za TV-kuću koja bi snimala kako se odvija projekat.
- Ja sam  apsurdija@mail.com  za kontakte , predloge i komentare  - i za  početak iz bezbednosnih razloga.
Inače imam ime i prezime, JMBG i ostale brojeve i isprave kao državljanka  RS
Pozivam Ivicu Dačića da bude ja i dođe i živi u mom iznajmljenom stanu na jednom beogradskom  brdu koji mesečno iznajmljujem za 200 eura i plaćam dodatne troškove do 150 eura preko zime kad je grejanje, i trošim dnevno prosečno 500 do 1000 dinara za hranu i kozmetiku.
Na crno se bavim SPOLJNOM TRGOVINOM.  Nemam stalni posao koji bi pokrivao te troškove. Moj CV je skoro prazan jer sam veći deo radila na crno. Po obrazovanju sam pravnik i imam diplomu više škole Pravnog fakulteta u Nišu. Trenutno preživljavam prodajući čaj,  koji sam letos brala na planini u rodnom kraju, na Vidikovačkoj pijaci, NAPOLJU PO ZIMI , koliko mogu da izdržim dok se ne srmznem do kostiju, plaćajući dnevno zakup tezge ( ako ima slobodne) 350 dinara, 144 dinara gradski prevoz da dođem do pijace i doručak 50 dinara.
Dok tako stojim na zaleđenom betonu čekajući da neko od penzionera vidi da prodajem čaj, razgledam okolo i čudim se kako to da ta pijaca koja ima 600 tezgi i spašava od gladi veći broj ljudi koji tamo rade i njihove porodice i dalje nema krov ni osnovne uslove za opstanak ljudskog bića na tom mestu, veći deo godine. Sve tezge su zakupljene na mesečnom nivou i iznajmljuju se na dnevnom nivou u podzakup ljudima koji stvarno rade na njima.  Kad se naplaćeni iznosi grubo preračunaju na godišnjem nivou dobije se suma od proizvoljno  milion i šesto hiljadaeura, 1600 000 eura.  Pijaca postoji dvadesetak godina  a toliko postoji i priča da se pijaca stavi pod krov, bar, ako ne i da se instalira grejanje ili klima i tako zaštite ljudi koji tamo ostavljaju zdravlje po zimi i vrućini – snabdevajući hranom taj deo grada. Ili bilo koji deo grada, jer je na svim pijacama stanje isto. Da bi bila saobrazna zakonskoj odredbi o trgovini poljoprivrednim proizvodima mora da se obavlja na otvorenom !!! Kao da je malo što se mukotrpna proizvodnja obavlja na otvorenom i što je  profit najminimalniji i što posrednici i razni globeri uzimaju najveći deo kolača od prodaje voća i povrća .   Dok tako stojim , od dugoga dana padne mi na pamet da se bavim aspektima makroekonomije i NEBO-I-ZEMLJA razlikama koje postoje kod ljudi koji tuda prolaze ili cupkaju  u raznim ulogama. U tim uslovima je nastao moj prvi projekat   “Pijace pod krov !”
Premijer bi mogao na mom “radnom mestu” ako ga obezbedi za taj dan da proda čajeva za hiljadu dinara dok se ne smrzne ili ne izgubi nadu da će išta prodati i da napravi plan šta će od tog novca da kupi za “kuću” . Postoji verovatnoća da bi imao veće prihode zbog popularnosti svog lika i dela u narodu, ali tim bolje.  Treba da rasporedi i plati godišnju školarinu za ćerku studenta prosperitetnih  nauka. Što je u proseku 100 eura mesečno ( 1000 za godinu ) , pomenutu stanarinu i troškove 300 eura i hranu skromnih 200 eura.
Čizme, jakne, nova garderoba, frizer, kozmetičar, aerobik, izlasci, zimovanja i letovanja , vožnja kola , su samo lepe uspomene i skinute su odavno sa liste mesečnih troškova .  Kada se setimo tih pojmova, pogledamo reklame ili slike na fesj buku , ako je neko to još uvek u stanju da priušti sebi ovih dana u ovoj zemlji i prođe nas želja i volja i osetimo duboku zahvalnost što smo žive i zdrave i što nismo na ulici . Koliko će to zdravlje još da nas služi to niko ne zna, jer nam knjižice nisu overene.  Mi tako guramo dan za danom, ja i moja mlađa ćerka i ne znamo dokle ćemo izdržati jer smo već ušle u minus, tj u dug.
Starija ćerka je u jednom zimskom turističkom centru gde ima ugovor na četiri meseca, i gde su joj tražili da potpiše izjavu da će sigurno ostati tamo da radi do kraja sezone , da neće otići pre vremena . Za platu od 110 dinara po satu. Treba da bude srećna, presrećna i zadovoljna što ima gde da radi, ( jer uvek ima ko hoće da radi i ko ima vezu da nađe gde će da radi )  i da ne razmišlja o perspektivi i planovima iako ima priliku da vidi kako treba da se živi – posmatrajući goste hotela u kome ona nikad neće imati prilike da odsedne kao gost.
Kad se premijer sa mog radnog mesta bude vratio kući , sačekaće ga panika oko neplaćenih računa za boravak u tuđem stanu sa prastarim nameštajem i odatle treba da se prikači na slobodnu wirelles komšijsku mrežu i pokuša da nađe posao u gradu u kome nikoga ne poznaje i gde svi traže da se obeća duša kompaniji u kojoj se radi i po 12 sati za nadnicu od 110 dinara po satu bez grejanja i bez ikakvog potpisanog papira, na crno , jer – kapije su “tamo” – a to nije socijalna ustanova i ko ne može da izdrži može slobodno da izađe kroz njih, jer ima ko hoće da radi . Da nađe posao od koga će moći da živi mesec dana plati redovne i vanredne troškove i bude u stanju da se smeje sa svojom decom, odvede ih na ručak u kafanu i na neku izložbu u galeriju u gradu i tako neke epske zanimacije koje inače postoje u reklamama  …
Ne treba da padne u depresiju kad ga ne nađe  i ne treba da razmišlja da se iseli u neku drugu državu jer ga tamo ne bi ni primili i eventalno bi mogao da bude konobar, ili baštovan ,ako ima puno sreće i da se utopi u kliše gastarbajterskih priča i iseljenika , odliv mozgova i ostalih sindroma od kojih pate nesrećnici rođeni u ovoj zemlji posle drugog velikog rata.
A ja bih za to vreme od nedelju dana osnovala Ministarstvo i prateću službu ZA VEZU SA STVARNOŠĆU, dok mi ne stignu izveštaji o zaista bitnim stvarima u zemlji,  zaposlila nezaposlene, skinula apstraktne i fantomske  korisnike budžeta  sa grbače malih preduzetnika, rešila kredite fonda za razvoj koji ne mogu da se naplate, jer su deljeni nestručnim ljudima bez ikakvog konsaltinga, a koje su iskoristili da plate svoje dugove. Ukinula zelenaške  kamate i smanjila broj banaka i menjačnica u ovoj zemlji, ukinula monopole u javnim sektorima , smanjila broj mobilnih telefona i prihode mobilnih operatera jer nisu oni jedini koji treba da jedu leba u ovoj zemlji. Napravila piramidalni  poreski sistem koji se ne bi zasnivao na “štednji” zatezanju tuđih kaiševa i otimačini nego na optimizaciji i pravilnom rasporedu poreskih obaveza prema  finansijskoj snazi obveznika. Smanjila bi namete i takse koje građanin ove zemlje plaća na svakom koraku  nepotrebno stalno nešto overava i dokazuje . Uvela bi centralizovani kompjuter za podatke iz matičnih knjiga za celu zemlju i za knjige o državljanstvu i katastar.  Za zdravstvene kartone i druge vrste dosijea kao što su diplome i izdata uverenja koji su realno povezani . Ukinula bi građevinsku mafiju i  ostale mafije koje posluju na ovoj teritoriji .
Ukinula bi nezaposlenost tako što bi uvela šestočasovno radno vreme , pet dana u nedelji. Od toga bi se četiri sata radilo za mesečne troškove koje ljudsko biće ima , dva sata bi se radilo za penziju , a ostatak po volji za dodatne potrebe preko osnovnih, koje bi se ticale zaboravljene kulture i fizičke aktivnosti građana, prevencije bolesti , podizanje standarda i obrazovanja građana, boljeg povezivanja cele teritorije države , ujednačenje privrednog razvoja i vađenje iz kome posle dvadeset godina anesteziranja ljudi na ovim prostorima. Socijalne razlike bi postojale u razmeri 1:2 , 1:3, 1:4 , do 1:5 . Preko tog odnosa socijalne razlike ne bi postojale.  Bez ugrožavanja svojinskih prava, bez krvave otimačine kakvu su napravili partizani i bez otimačine po političkoj liniji kakvu gledamo od devedestih godina prošlog veka.
Dear leader , zar ne vidite da je svima omča oko vrata ???
Naravno da ne vidite iz svog zagrejanog kabineta, sa bankovnim računom koji vas drži u sigurnosti u periodu koji nadmašuje prosečni ljudski vek . Odatle ne možete da rešavate životna pitanja građana čiji ste premijer, pa sve i da imate najbolje namere jer vam nije hladno, niste gladni, i niste uplašeni za svoj život, niste se razboleli od te brige i otrovali jeftinom hranom koja je dostupna običnim građanima.
Na vašem mestu :
Povećala bih natalitet pružanjem povlastica majkama. Mogućnost da dve majke drže jedno radno mesto, ili tri čak … dok im deca ne pođu u školu , jer je to najveća i najvrednija investicija za celo društvo  Rađanje i podizanje  novih ljudi u zdravom okruženju. Za socijalizaciju u obdaništima bilo bi dovoljno 4 sata dnevno ili manje, ako majka drži trećinu radnog vremena.
Rekonstruisala bih poreski sistem i vratila dostojanstvo malom preduzetniku koji je nosilac privrednog opstanka i razvoja , vratila bih mu suverenitet nad njegovim parama i imovinom i uvela nove obaveze koje bi ga učvrstile u statusu hranioca porodice i države kao zajednice svih ljudi .  Promenila bih odnos poreski obveznik – finansijski inspektor  i  propisala obavezu za inspektore da se klanjaju poreskom obvezniku od koga zavise umesto postojećeg tretmana kao neuhvaćenog prestupnika , a pritom inspektori  rade to što svi znamo da rade… Dozvolila bih  i njima da zadrže dostojanstvo i prestroje se u hodu.
Ukinula bi porez od 1/5  i uvela desetak za preduzetnike do određenog limita godišnjih prihoda koji ostvaruje najveći broj  uspešnih preduzetnika  i niko ne bi izbegavao da plati porez. A kad se posluje kako se već posluje pod pritiskom drakonskih kazni i inspektora koji idu u žetvu i kažnjavaju proizvoljno za kartončić sa cenom koji nije na svom mestu, za nedostatak nekog obaveštenja o radnom vremenu ili posude za kišobran .. u uslovima kad se preduztnici tretiraju kao prestupnici koji još nisu uhvaćeni koji treba da budu srećni ako ih inspektor nešto malo rebne , s tim što je “malo” fleksibilan pojam zavisno iz kog se ugla gleda… a jedva sastavljaju kraj s krajem i imaju fobije od fiskalnih kasa i inspekcija i poreske uprave … sve je to idelano za lov u mutnom gde veliki rade šta hoće zbog političkih veza, a mali nose sav teret poslovanja, proizvodnje i usluga …
Ukinula bi megalomanske predstave kao što su sajmovi zapošljavanja i ostale šarene laže koje nemaju uticaja na stvarnu sliku ili se drastično razlikuju od nje.  Mladi nasmejani čovek koji traži posao sa bilborda i njegov stvarni dvojnik nemaju nikakve dodirne tačke , kao ni svetski trendovi i uslovi za zapošljavanje koji se ovde forsiraju.
Uvela bi limit u ostvarenim prihodima za preduzetnika da bi ostvario pravo da   zapošljava  radnika i minimalnu platu koja bi pokrivala osnovne i neke vanredne troškove da bi ljudi konačno mogli da odahnu.
Ne može, fizički se pokazalo,  država da preko propisa  svali odgovornost i rizik za poslovanje na apstraktno “TRŽIŠTE”  a realno na male proizvođače i preduzetnike , nema više odakle … oni ne mogu da posluju jer nema gotovog novca kod ljudi , a obaveze su im prevelike .
 Ekonomija je dehidrirana …  nema novca , nema krvi .. nema cirkulacije.Nema proizvodnje i kad je ima umešaju se posrednici koji odnesu najveći deo kolača. Ljudi ne mogu da dohvate onog ko je zaista odgovoran za ovakvo stanje stvari i drže jedan drugog za gušu.  Samo kod nas poljoprivrednik kome je rodila šljiva i malina – propadne ili je prospe u jarak u znak protesta. 
Državni intervencionizam je omražen u svetu  i ekonomskoj literaturi … ali kod nas je uzelo danak mnogo stvari … mnogo apstraktnih stvari .. kriza se opravdava nekim apastraktnim dugom države , a građane niko nije pitao da se to uzme niti obavestio gde su te pare upotrebljene, samo je objavljeno da smo dužni …
Nisu samo političke afere i rasprodaja socijalističke imovine na nameštenim tenderima osiromašili zemlju.
Građani su godinama nosili pare na Grčko primorje i izgradili ga.Odvajalo se za crnogorsko primorje kad je bio zemljotres, a i turisti su ostavili prilično novca tamo.Sada se pare nose Turcima i Arapima u Egipat i Tunis … Građani su  predano nosili pare  u Bugarsku i Mađarsku idući u šopinge za hranu i šverc garderobe.Sad se ide u Brčko po robu i u Istambul nam bratski .
Štednja !!! Mere štednje je neko iz vlade usmerio na velike plate…
i time je obezbeđen prosperitet  u zemlji nemam reči.
A pare se rasipaju  na bespotrebne i besmislene i totalno  ponižavajuće REKLAME  KOJE NAS BOMBARDUJU SA SVIH STRANA .
Oporezovati reklamiranje i ograničiiti .
RASKORAK IZMEĐU ŽIVOTA KOJI JE PRIKAZAN NA REKLAMAMA
I REALNOG ŽIVOTA JE PORAŽAVAJUĆI I PONIŽAVAJUĆI .
O grubom vređanju inteligencije i dostojanstva i privatnosti  gledalaca .niko ne izveštava..  O uticaju reklamnog bloka koji se besomučno ponavlja , na mentalno zdravlje  nema nikakvog istraživanja. Posebno je iritantno kada se u vreme izbora odjednom pojave neke pare, i gradovi se oblepe izbornim plakatima. Cela parada je čisto  rasipanje para , bacanje … seća li se iko šta to znači ?  Ne postoji nikakvo ograničenje za isticanje već otrcanih  propagandnih slogana , prostora i objekata odakle se vrši  grubo i besomučno atakovanje na glasača , koji je vremenom naučio da ne obraća pažnju na takve stvari .   Raskorak između nasmejanih lica političara sa plakata i  lica koja ispod njih prolaze je sramota za civilizaciju.   Zato se valjda i postavljaju visoko, da ne bi klinci mogli da ih pocepaju i isprskaju farbom.  Njihova stvarna vrednost pokaže se obično posle nekog vremena kad ih natopi kiša, kad ih pocepaju ili se odlepe i izblede na suncu i kad prođu izbori .
Trgovinu  preko interneta uvesti u sistem i omogućiti  trgovinu sa ostatkom sveta.  Oporezovati taj vid kupovine a sredstva iskoristiti za finansiranje proizvodnje sličnih proizvoda kod nas, s tim da se prati statistika nabavke dobara koja ulaze u zemlju tim putem.
Školovanje – ukinuti iracionalne razlike besplatnog studiranja i samofinansiranja …jer se radi o našoj deci , a jedni su siročići a drugi povlašćeni . Na kraju će svi biti bez posla iako završe neki od fakulteta koji postojie i štancuju stručnjake  da bi profesori imali radna mesta a ne prema potrbama države za određenim profilima.
Napraviti kvalitetna i korisna istraživanja  u svim oblastima koje se tiču života građana u ovoj zemlji. Uskladiti zakonska rešenja i dograđivati ih prema praksi. Olakšati  i ubrzati proces donošenja zakona. Smanjiti broj važećih zakona, izvrštiti sistematizaciju i bolju pokrivenost efikasnim zakonskim rešenjima od dosadašnih , prema oblastima.
Sve to u vreme kompjuterskih programa može da izvede običan programer, a timovi pravnika i ekonomista su nemoćni već decenijama da izvade zemlju iz krize kao da živimo na kamenu bez vode…
Zemlja ima potencijala za oživljavanje sela, za raseljavanje gradova i povratak na selo u manje zajednice koje bi funkcionisale u uslovima povezanosti i gde bi ljudi bili u mogućnosti da unaprede svoje živote , standarde i međuljudske odnose u duhu sabornosti , umesto da beže iz sela i  žive u gradovima živote koji nemaju smisla .
Ukinula bih otimačine u obliku plaćanja mesta za parkiranje i službu paukova jer je sve to čista paranoja i otvorena pljačka koja nema nikakvog realnog osnova, jer se putevima novca u toj “privrednoj grani” nikako ne može ući u trag.
Liberalizovala bih trgovinu i podsticala  manufakturnu proizvodnju u kućnim uslovima  i organizovala posebna mesta za prodaju domaćih proizvoda u gradovima .
Veliku industriju ostavila bih državi da se zanima a ljudima izbor da li će da trče na na posao u Zastavu ili Satrid ili neku rafineriju i budu roboti koj idu na posao , gledaju televiziju i tamo žive svoje živote i spavaju i plaćaju račune.
Ne bi se učlanjivala i upinjala da me prime u Evropsku uniju jer istorijski gledano oduvek su nas ganjali i ne treba nam gazda tuđin ni za šta , pod milim Bogom.  Iskoristila bih poslednji arheološki nalaz u Beogradu i poslala ga u sedište Evropske unije povodom neke svečanosti – bombu bih uvezala mašnom i na  roze kartici  bi napisala
- Pozdrav od terorista – .
Treba nam prostor da izvozimo naše poljoprivredne proizvode u uslovima zagađene hrane u svetu .  Ukinula bih sprdanje sa šeicima i od njih napravila saradnike kakvi hoće da budu.  Okrenuti se zemljama sa kojim ima šta da se razmenjuje  umesto da budemo rasadnik za već školovane mlade ljude kojima nemilice dozvoljavamo da se iseljavaju iz svoje zemlje.
Carinama zaštititi naše proizvode ali pomoći proizvodnju i uvoz poluproizvoda.  Zaštititi domaće potrošače .
Isterati Kineze iz zemlje ili im otežati poslovanje dodatnim oporezivanjem .
Zabraniti  DEKRETOM  uvoz i prodaju starih krpetina i dronjaka  zvanih SECOND HEND .
Uvesti porez crkvama na trgovinu  i usluge koje vrše.  Porez na imovinu koju drže .
Propisati zakonsku obavezu za građane Srbije da pročitaju jednu knjigu mesečno . Da nauče svoju istoriju , da se pomire sa komšijama, da prestanu da zavide , da se okrenu zajedništvu i istinskim vrednostima pravoslavlja , a ne samo slavljenju slava i pradiranju…  Da se  sistematizuje i objavi prava istorija Srba i srpstva i korena Srpske civilizacije jer već ima dovoljno materijala za to  .  Da se dozvole alternativni školski programi i vrati praksa učenja uz rad za neke struke. Da se razvija zanatstvo i mali proizvodni pogoni . Da se postiče menjanje profesije i  radnih mesta shodno novim mogućnostima i interesovanjima ljudi i novim tehnologijama.
Da se smanji proizvodnja magle , zapošljavanje na engleskom  i proizvodnja afera  koja je podelila državu na stotinak porodica koje mogu da žive i ostale koji treba da crknu.
Informisati pripadnike tih porodica da je sva ušteđevina građana opljačkana ili devalvirana, da su slamarice istresene i da je skoro svo zlato otkupljeno  u novom uličnom biznisu koji podržava život od danas do sutra , što se inače ne koristi kao slogan  u vreme izbora koji su nas uglavnom dovde i doveli a njih do tamo … 
Sa lica građana nestalo je osmeha , još samo poneki inadžija  se sarkastično ruga postojećem stanju u zemlji osorno upoređujući British museum sa našim Narodnim muzejom rugajući se fronclama srpske kulture …  Ukinula bih sarkazam i podsmevanje dok se ne steknu bezbedni uslovi za iste zanimacije u lagodnim vremenima iako su nas održali na životu do sad, dosta je bilo …  pljvanja po internetu u smešnoj zabludi da od tih zaludnih komentara ima neke vajde i da ima nekog uticaja na ono što se komentariše .  Uvela bih zakonske najniže cene od  pet hiljada dinara za primerak  za senzacionalističke časopise koji ne podržavaju ništa korisno sem afera, skandala i crne hronike.  Pa nek poklanjaju familiji da čita i smanje uludo trošenje papira ( ekologija, šume, zaštita životne sredine na mnogim nivoima … pa sve i jeste povezano … samo nema ko da vidi )
Organizovala bih sastanak za okruglim stolom gospodina u nemilosti, Miškovića  i još desetak najbogatijih građana i dovela bih desetak radnika koji su proveli po nekoliko godina radeći a da nisu primali platu da razmene iskustva.
Da sednu jedni preko puta drugih i postave pitanja i predstave svoja iskustva i životne puteve.  Da utvrdimo na koji način i kojom inteligencijom i sposobnošu su zgrnute tolike pare na jedno mesto i ZAŠTO ? Kolika je to crna rupa u tim ljudima koja je usisala sve do čega su mogli da se dograbe u ovoj zemlji ne razmišljajući da seku granu na kojoj sede.   Pitala bi ih da objasne kako upotrebljavaju toliko novca za svoj jedan dan, koliko košta njihov jedan dan, koliko čega potroše i šta plate za to vreme , a onda bi dala reč grupi nesrećnika da iznesu svoje dnevne istorije.
Dovela bi ih da se pogledju oči u oči i razmisle još jednom  da li sve to ima smisla  i ako ga ima da objasne gde je?
Da li baš nikako ne može drugačije ?   Kako bi to drugačije izgledalo kad bi se iskombinovala njihova iskustva.
Pozvala bi  ljude koji su izneli pare odavde da se vrate .   Amnestirala bi sva njihova nedela i malverzacije i dozvolila bi im da žive bez straha , ako pomognu da se napravi novi humaniji sistem u kome bi bilo mesta za sve i uslova za sve, u razumnim razlikama.  Dafine i Jezde i ostale sledbenike.
Nije moguće da su baš svi zaboravili osnove principe čovečnosti i života u zajednici.
Govori se o strateškim projektima.
 Strateški projekat je :   spasiti ljude od sporog i mučnog umiranja.  
Osmisliti život dvadesetogodišnjacima, zrelim ljudima , deci i starima, ali ne reklamama nego stvaranjem realnih izbora za zanimanja kojima će da se bave i  kakav bi život mogao da im bude ako se odluče za opciju DA OSTANU OVDE.   Otvoriti međunarodne konkurse za projekte  na temu izlaska iz krize i plasirati ih Japancima, Islanđanima koji imaju šta da kažu i prenesu svoja iskustva.  Ne treba da se izmisli vremeplov . Moguće je napraviti platformu kao za domaćinstvo. Počistiti kuću i dvorište, izbaciti staro i napraviti plan šta će novo da se pravi samo na detaljnijem i komplikovanijem nivou.
Popisati izvore  prirodnih resursa napraviti planove za proizvodnju.  Stimulisati i usmeravati ljude u određene oblasti za koje nema interesa u privatnoj inicijativi, a bez kojih je otežano funkcionisanje zajednice.
Dozvoliti konačno iseljenicima i gastarbajterima da se vrate i prave ovde ono što su hteli i videli da funkcioniše tamo gde su živeli, ako uopšte ima takvih.  A ima i dalje iako su skoro svi koji su se vratili bili opljačkani na neki način.  Ima još dovoljno zemlje za gradnju koja strpljivo čeka .
Vratiti dostojanstvo ljudskom biću  na ovim prostorima.  Nije samo jedan Novak Đoković. Pustiti ga da kaže šta ima i da svoje iskustvo prenese drugim mladim ljudima koji bi da budu uspešni kao on.   Nije samo jedan Stefan Milenković .  Ima ih najmanje milion, koji su izgubljeni u svemiru, pomračini, dimu i alkoholu klubova i na stranicama fejsbuka gde lažu sebe i druge da se dobro provode.
Zdravstvo –  prelivati prihode od poreza iz privatnih zdravstvenih praksi u državne zdravstvene ustanove.  Jer sve ionako plaćaju građani iz svog džepa, pa bar da se nešto vidi šta su platili sem kuća i vikendica i luksuza privanim doktorima … koji prodaju maglu ucenjenim ljudima .. mnogo lova u mutnom … po cenu života i zdravlja velikog broja ljudi u kombinaciji sa neoprostivim greškama doktora i osoblja . Uvesti kontrolu cena i kvaliteta usluga koji se obavljaju u zdravstvu.
U prilog piramidalnom oporezivanju. Ko više zarađuje veći porez da plati … jer reallno nikom ne treba sto puta više nego nekom drugom … do pet  puta više za vrednije i ambicioznije bio bi plafon tolerancije , ali sve preko toga brutalno oporezovati.
Uvela bi plaćanje stanarine stanodavcima. Pošto imaju stanove koje ne koriste , plaćali bi uslugu podstanarima da koriste njihove neupotrebljene stanove i viškove stambenog prostora. Bez izuzetaka .
Vratila bi praksu “imaš stan vrati kuću”… na dobrovoljnoj bazi, stimulisanoj ovom praksom.  Jer kuću ionako nećeš poneti na onaj svet , a mnogo bi se socijalnih pitanja rešilo ovim putem . 50 m2 po članu se nekad zvalo komforni dvosobni stan.  Četvoročlanoj  porodici je sasvim dovoljno 100 m2 eventualno 120.  Penzioneru je dovoljan apartman  i zajedničke prostorije  gde bi kvalitetno mogao da provodi svoje dokono vreme.  Pronaći  razuman limit i ne dirati u pravo svojine. Svoijna na stanovima je stečena na različite načine, nasleđivanjem , dobijanjem  u vreme socijalizma i više su srećne okolnosti imale uticaja na vlasničke odnose nego realnan rad i odvajanje od zarade da bi se došlo do svojine nad stambenim prostorom.   Promeniti te okolnosti u svrhu rešavanja stambenog pitanja većine od raspoloživih kuća i stanova.  Ne drastičnom otimačinom, nacionalizacijom, nego merama stambene politike.  Dozvoliti građaninu  30 m2 do 18 godina ,tj dok živiš s roditeljima.  od 18 do 60  godina , dozvoliti   50 m2   po građaninu i od 60  godina dozvoliti  po  30 m2 koliko ti realno i treba.   Brak bi doneo 100 , samcima dozvoliti komfornih 50 m2, deca po 30 dodatnih m2, da bi zgrade i zidovi imali realnu svrhu i funkciju za vreme koje su potrebni . Preko toga opteretiti porezima i obavezom plaćanja naknade za korišćenje licima bez imovine.  Dozvoliti po 20 m2  po građaninu – vikend kuće van grada i mesta boravka, koji mogu biti predmet razmene odmora i biti u funkciji tokom cele godine.  Sve to pratiti kroz efikasni kompjuterski sistem bez mnogo priče.  Legalizovati gradnju . Vratiti zemljišni maksimum od 20 hektara i zabranu strancima da budu vlasnici zemlje.
Zaposlila bih na važnim istraživačkim projektima  eskperte za izbegavanje zakona, mafijaške vođe i prevarante  u cilju usaglašavanja zakona sa stvarnim stanjem u državi i oblasti na koju se odnose.
Legalizovala bi marihuanu i pokrenula proizvodnju – eto prilike za nova mlada poljopriveredna domaćinstva na selu…
Za dilere  ostalim drogama   platila bi im   školovanje u inostranstvu .. pa možda bi nešto korisno i od njih bilo .. Smrtna kazna opterećuje kolektivnu sudbinu zemlje i dosta je bilo krvoprolića na ovim prostorima …
Napravila bih eksperimentalne zatvore na novim principima sagledavanja uzroka kriminalnog ponašanja i delikvenata i mera za njihovu rehabilitaciju.  Iskoristila bih i preoblikovala potencijal za preživljavanje koji ti ljudi nose.
Napravila bih anketu na temu KAKO IZAĆI KONAČNO IZ KRIZE i poslala anketare da ispitaju mlade ljude koji se spremaju da odu na brodove ili isele iz zemlje. Osnovno pitanje i prosto pitanje bilo bi –  DA LI BI OVDE RADILI KO CRNCI ZA ISTU PLATU KOJU VAM JE OBEĆANA NA KRUZERU ?   Od dobijenih predloga napravila strategiju privrednog razvoja i dala šansu u narednih pet godina novim ljudima. Da se okrenemo stvaranju i proizvodnji umesto reciklaži i otimanja za stare propale firme iz prepotopskih Titovih vremena.
Povratak prirodnim materijalima  lan, konoplja, vuna, finasirati PROJEKTE za proizvodnju ovih proizvoda.
Oživljavanje poljoprivrede  i života na selu u malim vrednim zajednicama koje treba posebno finansijski pomagati i zaštititi .  Izgradnja jeftinijih kuća u tradicionalnom stilu od prirodnih materijala .
Posebnu pažnju posvetila bih penzionerima i uslovima za drugačije organizovanje njihovog života koji u sadašnjim uslovima nema dostojanstvo, svrhu ni  mrvice radosti …
Ukinula bih život pomoću trika u ovoj zemlji i uvela život na osnovu rada od šest sati dnevno pet dana u nedelji.
Itd .
Ako se nekome dopao moj predlog,  prosledite dalje , možda i stigne do Ivice, ja se nisam šalila .
Predsednik Islanda je  bivši panker koji se uozbiljio i dobro mu ide iako im uopšte nije dobro išlo.
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PS: Projekat mi je nesistematizovan zbog pisanja na brzinu i smrznutih prstiju a i ometa me pomisao na neplaćene račune i ladnoću napolju koja me čeka kad me izbace iz stana ovih dana , baš pred Novu godinu.

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